Do you know the power of your own mind in reaching your goals? Can you remember back to a time in your life when you just decided on a deep level that you were going to change your behavior or let some emotional baggage go? Most of us have had these experiences, yet we never stop to think about the power behind those decisions.
You’ve probably heard me, or someone else say “As you think, so you become” or “whatever you focus on creates your reality”. Well, dealing with thoughts about your body and food fall under that same Law of Attraction.
What are thinking about your body right now? Does it feel good to you? Do you feel disgusted with yourself? Guilty? Lazy? Unfit? Fat? You likely believe that the only way to change is to force yourself to get up, get moving and shed those extra pounds with sheer willpower alone, but the statistics don’t lie. Half of all people that start an exercise program quit within six months. The truth is that we’ll never find a permanent solution when we’re focusing on the problem. Willpower is temporary; it can’t compete with negative emotion. Lasting change comes from a very different place.
Negative emotion and beliefs about your body, food and your overall health are, in my opinion, the root cause of all failed attempts to get healthier. When we understand that positive, lasting action can only come from positive intentions and beliefs we can really swing the pendulum in our favor.
If you don’t have any tools to start shifting your thinking, you may think that’s easier said than done. After all, most people are under the impression that simply stating an affirmation, no matter how false it is, amounts to positive thinking. For example, if you’re feeling fat, lazy and disgusting, and try stating an affirmation that says “I am lean, fit and energized” your subconscious mind says…”oh no, you’re not” and you’ve just re-affirmed the negative. Positive affirmations can work for some people, but in my experience, if you don’t neutralize those negative emotions before trying to instill a positive, you simply end up with a tug of war between your wants and your beliefs that keep you stuck right where you are. Deeply held, subconscious beliefs are often formed in early childhood and will always be a more powerful force than a conscious wants.
The key then is to trick your subconscious mind into getting on board with you, or change the negative beliefs, both of which are possible.
Here’s one way to trick your subconscious mind with a positive affirmation. Instead of boldly sticking that positive affirmation in the face of your belief systems, try adding the words, “I choose” in front of it. Simply adding the choice option effectively takes away that “oh no you’re not” possibility and neutralizes those powerful belief systems and your subconscious mind.
You may also start to analyze yourself to find out what negative beliefs may be blocking your success and then find a way to change or release those beliefs. Finish these sentences with the first thing that comes to mind;
My body is__________________________.
Exercise is _________________________.
Losing weight is ______________________________.
What were your initial knee-jerk responses? Your body is unhealthy? Exercise is hard, time-consuming, no fun? Losing weight is hard, requires discipline? Look deeply at those answers and find the areas that your beliefs may be blocking you. Continue to ask yourself more questions. Why do I feel that way? Can I find some sort of role model that feels the way I’d prefer to feel? Keep looking for new ways to feel better about your body, food and exercise.
Yes, food and exercise are important components to having a healthy, fit body, but you will never reach your goals from a place of resistance and negativity. Make lists of things that you like about your body, be easy on yourself and most of all, let it be a process of unfolding, dismantling and finding positive new beliefs and then watch how easily the proper food and exercise follow.