The last time I flew, there was a gentleman next to me that was VERY anxious. He’d bounce his right knee, then his left, check his phone every 10 seconds, wipe the sweat off his palms on his pants, re-adjust his position and then start all over again. It was hard to watch him go through that when I was sitting right there with the tools he needed to be free of that tension. My own fear of approaching strangers and telling them they should tap on their head is what stopped me from offering my services to him (I’m working on that one).
When people at my seminars or in my office see the power of the Emotional Freedom Technique to permanently abolish fears and phobias, I’m often asked about fear of flying. It seems many people are limited by this fear and would like to let it go.
Here I share the information that I recently sent to a client. She has a flight coming up that she’s anxious about, so I gave her some tapping pointers to help her have a smooth flight.
If you don’t have any experience with EFT, you’ll need to do a little homework first. There is a plethora of information on the net, and you can see videos on youtube or on my favourite website, www.eftuniverse.com.
First you want to find the things freak you out the most about flying. You’ll want to be really specific and target your tapping to those, but you also want to feel your way though it with your imagination and tap segment by segment on any and all images or thoughts that cause anxiety. Some people will be fine booking a flight, and that wouldn’t cause any anxiety, but as soon as the flight starts to get close, they have anxiety. For others, they are totally fine until they are taking off. Identify which aspects of flying cause anxiety for you, and then put those things into a tapping statement.
For example, if you’re nervous just in general about the thought of going to the airport, seeing the plane, getting on the plane, or taking off, that’s where you start with something like this:
“Even though I’m nervous about even seeing a plane, I love and accept myself completely.”
Do rounds of EFT on each general aspect until you can think about flying in general and you don’t have any anxiety or nervousness anywhere in your body.
Once you’ve tapped down the general fears, do the Movie Technique;
Imagine the entire experience as vividly as possible as though it were a movie in your mind, stopping to tap anytime you feel any intensity what so ever. Driving to the airport, walking through the airport, seeing the plane, walking down the gate, the confined space, feeling trapped, the flight attendants’ emergency procedure information, the plane starting up (if you’re getting intense just reading through this, stop and tap right now), the plane taxi-ing down the runway, the plane accelerating and pushing you back into your seat, that feeling of lift off, climbing, looking down through the window, feeling the plane bank, turbulence, descent, landing etc….
Go through that mental flight movie, stopping to tap whenever you have any intensity as many times as you need to, until you can imagine the whole scenario without any anxiety. You might need to go through it 3 or 4 times.
Now, if you still have anxiety, you may also need to address any root causes that might be driving the fear. If you have specific traumas in regards to flying, heights, confined spaces, being trapped etc. then those will need to be dealt with as well. What are you really afraid of happening when you fly? If you don’t know the answer to that, ask yourself while you do a round of tapping and see if anything comes to mind.
That will definetly take the edge of when it comes to the flight, but of course you should tap the day of the flight, and you can certainly tap your way through the whole thing. Even if you are in public, you can still tap without saying anything, and if it looks too funny, you can just tap the karate chop point on the side of the hand or the collarbone point without being too conspicuous. You can also do mental tapping, just imagine the tapping if you really can’t get your fingers onto a point.
P.S. I had the feeling of flying the whole time I was writing that..it was fun, thanks!